Personally, I feel that a person like who you described, is secretive because they don't want you to know what life is really like for them. They have stuff going on that nobody can find out about or they would die a thousand deaths. They could be living a lie or so insecure that in public, around friends and others, they portray something completely different.
When I see that about a person, I leave them right there, where they shut that door. I do not and I repeat, I do not oblige them when it comes to their questions about my business. I do not keep them up to date about anything going on with me. I'm actually limited in a friendship with them because a friendship with them cannot grow due to the fact that it is a one-sided relationship.
Thank you so much Shanice Jones for commenting!! I completely agree with you!! I sometimes have to remind myself that just because it easy for me to be transparent doesn't mean that it is that way for others. The good thing is that we can control how much we divulge to others!
I really like your point that some of us are secretive because we would die a thousand deaths if people really knew what was going on on our lives!
Once again thank you for sharing your thoughts!!☺☺☺
If they've been like that from the start it could be a learned behavior from childhood but I know I'd have such a hard time becomgin friends with someone like this in the first place! Otherwise if they become like that randomly I'd say there is something they are not comfortable sharing or embarrassed about. Some people are crippled by fear of being judged. I know this has to bother you whenever this happens to you considering you're so open minded . I confide in you all the time and never feel judged!
First things first, thank you SOOO much for sharing Mairead! I totally agree that it can be a learned behavior to be very secretive. I remember growing up and always hearing from adults to keep my business to myself and not to go running my mouth talking family business to others lol! I guess that mindset can kind of stay with us even in our adulthood. I love transparency so much because I think that is part of the key ingredients that helps us to relate with one another! I am learning to respect and understand that many do not feel comfortable being open about their lives out of their own fears, anxieties, and insecurities. I definitely connect more with those who are themselves and who are open books! My sentiments are the same as I feel that you are one of the least NON JUDGMENTAL people that I know!
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