This is why I LOVE the daytime talk show "THE REAL".........because they discuss NECESSARY REAL LIFE topics!!! I COMPLETELY agree with Adrienne's point to the MAX!!! The only thing that I would say contrary to her point is to know the challenges that come with dating/marrying someone who is 10 plus years your senior (I'll save this explanation for another blog)!!!! I have had this conversation with quite a few of my girlfriends who have easily gotten caught up in their "lists" and fantasies when sharing what they want in their future mates. I also ALWAYS use my love story as an example because my husband and I were not EACH OTHER'S TYPES!! Now if we would have stuck to our LISTS......we would probably be unhappily single! I too did not want to date or marry someone who had children......however, my husband has a son. Sidebar, good luck with dating someone who does not have children in this day and age!!!! I say all of this to say that the person who GOD truly has for us may not always match our lists of wants........however they will possess what we NEED in a partner! Those same girlfriends of mine who I was sharing this point with are still single, getting frustrated with the dating game, are ready to settle down, and some are feeling a bit hopeless when it comes to love. Now I am not shading them by any means.........what I am saying is that they may have to reset some of their filters!!! It can also become a SLIPPERY SLOPE when our lists are only comprised of superficial qualities and attributes that we want the other person to have!
It is also important for us to focus on what WE BRING TO THE TABLE and not just have EXPECTATIONS of what he or she is bringing to the relationship! I feel that it is also CRUCIAL for us to have experienced enough of life prior to marriage or getting into a committed relationship. Meaning, it is good to have experience living on your own so that you learn how and what it takes to take care of yourself as well as knowing who you are; and having a healthy sense of self!!!! If we are STRUGGLING with LOVING OURSELVES.......how can we be someone else's better half and have the ability to LOVE THEM HOW THEY NEED TO BE LOVED?????
You gotta love Tamera's blond moments!!!
Do you agree with me? What is your perspective?